Some individuals find it in their lives a sequence of silence, where they always attract people who appear to be in need of guidance, support, or repair. Although compassion is a positive quality, the recurrence of such dynamic tends to be the manifestation of underlying emotional patterns and personalities that shape the ways of developing and maintaining relationships in small yet mighty ways.
Deep Empathy
You do tend to pick up what other people are experiencing, can feel them before they may say it and this makes people feel immediately heard and secure by you. Such a great emotional consciousness is admirable, but can also be dragged away to individuals who are suffering since your presence can provide them with a feeling of comfort and reassurance that they might not get in other places.
Strong Responsibility
You hold onto a certain belief internally that it is your responsibility to assist others in bettering their conditions as far as it is more than what is expected or healthy. This feeling of duty can silently dissolve in fences and make one responsible to issues which he or she is not supposed to resolve.
Boundary Challenges
A no is not easy to say and when a person seems to be in need and guidance in life, saying no becomes difficult. In the long run, this inability to draw boundaries may attract individuals who depend extensively on others, and your needs are always placed in the second place.
Fixer Mindset
You tend to envision the potential out of individuals instead of their current state thinking that given the right kind of support, they will one day improve to be something better. Such optimism may make you make investments in matters where change is contingent on the other individual, not on your personal effort only.
Emotional Availability
You are receptive, available, and eager to hear and this brings about great feeling of connectedness among the people who do not feel heard in other ways. Though this trait instills trust effectively and efficiently, it may as well bring people who are willing to lean on someone instead of standing on their own.
Conflict Avoidance
You like peace, and you might not want to confront harsh realities that might cause some strains or burden in your relationships. This tendency may permit the unhealthy patterns to persist because the emphasis is put on maintaining peace instead of promoting accountability.
Validation Seeking
Realizing the need to help others can give you a sense of being important and valued, thus making you feel that you are someone to whom you can trust and rely. This may be a way of unconsciously driving you to situations that make you needed and not equally valued, when this becomes a first source of self-worth.
Rescue Instinct
There is a desire to intervene when someone is in trouble and you usually tend to offer a solution or help even before you are requested. This instinct, his care, may form a skewed relationship in which he or she depends on your advice.
Idealistic Thinking
You are likely to believe in good things and development and concentrate on what might be instead of what is happening. Although optimism is strong, it may at times keep you busy with situations that need real limits rather than endless labors.
Self Neglect
Your personal well being can gradually be pushed aside in the process of serving the needs of other people and this may not even be realized initially. In the long run, this trend may cause emotional burnout, which complicates healthy and balanced relations.
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